Monday, October 26, 2009

Our Adoption Decision

In my last post, I talked about different reasons that families decide to adopt. I really hope people begin to see that the reasons are so much more varied than just infertility.

Brad and I briefly talked about our decision to adopt in our adoption announcement, but I wanted to share more about it. We realize that since we have been married for over ten years many people will assume we are pursuing adoption due to infertility. But, that's actually not the case.

So, why did we decide to adopt?  The short answer is simply that God gave us the desire to pursue adoption rather than pregnancy to bring our first child into our home.

After nine-plus years of marriage, we decided that we would like to add children to our family. Just a couple of months after deciding that, we started to get interested in adoption. Our eyes were opened to the many children in need of loving parents and to the beauty of adoption as a wonderful way to build a family. We decided that we would go ahead with our plan to have biological children (since we are already in our early 30s) and then adopt children a few years later.

As we began trying to get pregnant, we also began to fall more and more in love with adoption. As a couple of months passed without pregnancy, our hearts turned to adoption even more. After a total of seven months, we had such a deep desire to adopt that we decided to stop trying to get pregnant and instead adopt our first child.

So, as far as we know, we have no fertility issues. Since we tried to get pregnant for only a few months, we never got to the point of going to the doctor to discuss fertility. We would certainly like to have biological children in the future. We also want to adopt more children. After we adopt our first child, we will again look at how God is working in our lives and decide whether we will pursue pregnancy or another adoption.

6 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing, Dena! I love how God works in our hearts to point us toward the path He has for us.
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  2. Dena,
    i always love reading why people decided to adopt. it's an amazing little seed that grows and grows in an adoptive parent's heart. thanks for sharing!
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  3. Dena, thanks for sharing. That is really beautiful!
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  4. I love the post. Full of truth and beauty!
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  5. Thank you so much fro sharing this! I love to hear about other families who have chosen adoption as 'plan a' rather than 'plan b'. We seem to be so rare:)
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  6. Thank you! Just found you. My husband and I are pursing adopting out of the foster care system as our "plan a" right now. Haven't tried to get pregnant. Feeling a bit alone in our journey, so knowing there are others is so very encouraging.
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